Dirty laundry is a good thing! I do not know why but it is so symbolic to me. I no longer have my H's dirty laundry in my home so I feel like that is a pretty severe message. He does not feel welcome in his own home meaning it is no longer his home. giggling. That is kinda funny actually. We wish you luck!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Can't explain women, probably shouldn't do what I am going to do tonight. She just called and asked me to come over for a late dinner. After last nite, I just got to go and see how she is today. Wish me luck, shall return soon.
Oh yeah, she also told me to bring my dirty laundry ! !
Interesting. Let us know how it goes.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
Well dinner was peaceful. If it weren't for the fact of no ILY's, holding hands, hugs, you would of thought everything was fine. Yes it made me happy she didn't bring us up or say she wanted a divorce, but I didn't take anything as good or bad, just go day by day and not worry about it. Keep my sanity first, take care myself and kids second, then I may have time to worry about her ups and downs. It is going to get easier over time, but I know myself, I will never give up till the gavel bangs and the judge says so.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Taking my first vacation since this all started. Our son and I are going to drive south and pick up my oldest son on the way. We will be gone for a week down to San Diego. I have a son from a previous marriage and in the beginning I hardly saw him because of the circumstances and when I was not with him I wanted to save that marriage more than any other time. Not that it should or will matter but I have a question. This will be the first time my current wife will be without son other than the back and forth he does between us every couple days. He has been gone for a week at a time, but we were still together at home while he was gone. Is their any chance that her going for over a week with him out of town and her being on her own she may actually see what a divorce causes. That everyday when she comes home, no one is around. That if we get a divorce, this will be the norm, or am I just dreaming.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I can tell you my H only gets any amount of time with our kids every other week. He has however seen them at least once a week maybe for only a few minutes. I know he misses them like crazy and he doesn't like being without them. On the other hand this was his decision and so far he's still hanging to it despite missing the kids so much. I think he may be starting to break down his wall but nothing major and still throws out a negative every once in a while. I do think more time away from the kids makes them at least miss them more. I don't know if it makes them stop and think. I'd like to think that it does.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
We will enjoy. Lots of stuff to do down in that area.
My wife and I have been good. We are close to 50/50 time with our son. I go get him anytime I have worked early, days off I keep him the whole time. I know when he has been with me just a couple days she can't wait for him to get home. This will be her first test to see what it is like to go this long. I know it actually has nothing to do with her and I, but I do hope she thinks about what it does to a family, and would still ponder a little more on what could or should be done about us.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
This should give her a good dose of what not having anyone around will be like. Hopefully she'll do some thinking. Hard to figure out the WAS.
I get frustrated because my H has been divorced before and knows what it's like to not be around his kid growing up and then to have him tell him that he doesn't need him anymore. I just can't wrap my mind around that he wants to do it again with 2 more kids. I just don't know.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
My wife and I talked on the phone today about the usual kid stuff. Then she asked me about a friend of mine that just left his wife last week. I think I spoke to much and with some of the info I just gave her, might of killed my chances. What happened is that I found out well after the fact that he was having an affair with one of his co-workers, then left his wife, she was not in favor of him leaving. I talked to him only once and gave him my thoughts, which was stand up for yourself and your family. You screwed up, but it does not have to be the end. By the end of the convo with him I told him never stop fighting for his family. I told all this to my wife just now on the phone. The part that might get me in trouble is that I use to work with this same women for years. A couple of years ago she came on real strong towards me. Yes it was nice to have an attractive women showering you with compliments and such. I did talk to her a lot but only at work. My wife also knows her and while talking today asked if I had ever done anything. I answered honestly and did tell her that this women did try but I didn't and wouldn't have. I am thinking my wife thinks I did, only because of a convo we had a couple weeks ago when she told me that two years ago is when she stopped trying, this was the same time that this women was trying to pick me up. In some ways I am happy it came up, I never would of imagined that she thought I ever had a affair. So in the context of this talk, I didn't bring us or our marraige, but I unknowingly let her know that I had not, so that could be a good thing. Time will tell.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Sounds like a good conv. 789. If she didn't care she wouldn't have asked. I try to remind myself of that all the time. Also, it's sometimes good to create a little mystery. She just showed u another one of her cards asking about another woman.
