I wanted to enjoy it too and that wasn't happening. But on the other hand, I still should have been taking H's needs into consideration
I think that's where communication and respect play such important roles. EACH person's needs - for sleep and sex - are reasonable and important so figuring out how to balance them so each feels they are getting heard and appreciated is the key. If the tired one ALWAYS has sex or the "undersexed" ALWAYS lets the other sleep, that's where resentment starts to grow. Of course resentment SHOULDN'T necessarily turn into entitlement but as we've seen in many situations it tends to happen that way.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
