Today I want to ask a question that alot of you will probably not like.
If you know for fact and certain that your WAS is currently involved with OM/OW, why continue having any hope for a reconcilliation?
To this point in my seperation I have yet to recieve any hard evidence that this is the case. But I strongly suspect it. I think the day (if) I do get confirmation, it is done. For myself I will have to abandon all hope and proceed in rebuilding a life that does not include her.
The thing I do not really get is how all these Walk Aways go out and have there affairs, and somehow manage to convince themselves that it is the Left Behinds fault..... That we drove them to do this. What a load of crap! When they made the choice to have there affairs, they made the choice to fail there marriage, to fail there family. When they make the choice to BLAME us for there choice, they compound it by failing there selves.
I do not have any respect for cheaters. But I give a grain of it to those who at least own up and say, "Yeah I did it, and it was wrong" Or even "Yeah I did it, and I did it because I wanted to"
Those that hide it, and when found out lie about it, or when admitting it say "it only happened because you pushed me.....you failed me.....you yada yada yada......." cannot, willnot even have the gumption to own up, instead choose to lay blame upon the spouse who was cheated on and decieved in the first place. Those are the biggest offenders, and unfortuniatly seem to be in the majority.
I guess in my situation, if it does ever come to light I will most likely be in that last catagory. If there ever was to be any chance of reconcilliation then there had better been serious owning up, and some serious apoligizing, before I could even consider trusting again. Which most likely would not take place, and in her exact words........"it's too late" I proceed forward and not look back. Do right by my child and do right by myself....
Right now, I still know nothing. I have choose not to look for any damning evidence. If it is meant to come to light, then it shall. I will work at bettering myself. Be a good daddy. Live each day the best I can.
I realize that this post will probably not be pleasant for some of you to read, and for that I apoligize. But when I take a hard look at things, this is where I am at. I do hope that all of you have a good day.
