Thank you all so much for the support. Yesterday was a tough day for me. Well, I just talked to her. She is going to breakfast with her father-who is down from Newbury, MA because of this. He left his wife of 25 years for another woman, so not really sure what great and outstanding pearls of wisdom he is going to have for her.
Anyway, we are having furniture being delivered tomorrow between 8 and 11 am. She said that she figured she would just stay at the condo tonight since it is going to be an early delivery and that way she wouldn't have to get up early to get to the condo for the delivery. She asked if that would be okay. (doesn't really make that much sense to me since I don't typically leave for work until around 9 and she would just have to show up before then) I told her that it was fine, if that is what she wanted to do. Even though I want to her stay there so badly I stayed calm and did not seem anxious.
I plan on taking this whole thing one day at a time. We did not get here overnight, even though at times it feels like it did. I just don't think she is in a good place mentally to be making these types of decisions. My IC told me to tell her that "I think that it is a good thing for you to go and get your space, both for you and for me. That, I will wait for you to make a decision regarding us, but not for too long." Not really sure about the time limiting aspect of that, because it will make her feel like she is being forced into making a decision under some arbitrary timeline, but I think the rest of it is pretty good.
