I don't know what to do. This morning as she was sleeping I snooped the phone, I know I shouldn't have done this, but I couldn't help myself. Everything she told me checks out, no calls from the OM, and the New OM keeps IM'ing her but she isn't responding. I want to call this SOB and let him have it. He is doing everything to pursue my W! Sending little texts of roses, calling himself her true love. I would love to truely love his face into some concrete at this point.
I'm not going to act on it, not to her, won't call him at least for 48 hours. She thinks he is sort of scary and doesn't like him sending these texts. I should get her phone and block his number, she would never know. Another stupid idea.
Her she is building some bridges of trust, and I'm burning 'em behind me as we walk. DB'ing is so easy when she is over there and not home all the time, it is a whole new ballgame when she is in the house.
She asked me leave an insurance card and she is going to call the counseler's today. We will see. Her mental state is just shot, she isn't making sound decisions, but when was she. She is on verge of just losing it and this jerk is constantly in her ear whispering sweet nothings. Well she told me about him last night, and said she originally meet him at the pool, and he has a D about the same age as my S. They made a play date, and basically she says he had diffrent motives. She was pretty disguisted with him and with herself to think she could make male friends and they wouldn't want something more.
One thing she did say last night that had me jumping for joy inside, was at one point S is playing and the dog takes off with his army man. This is in the middle of her explainging that she wants to just seperate and not divorce. I said, "It's all right, will get you another dude!" She turns to me, why do I want another guy, I have my two guys right here. Kinda funny after I explained what I was talking to S.
I'm lost, not sure how to handle any of this, I think first priority is her mental state. I need to make sure she is alright. I need to stop the snooping, and not worry about the OM. I think she is telling me the truth. She wants to have dinner with me tonight and asked if I would grill burgers. So I'm going to the store tonight, get a nice spread put together, buy them some groceries and just keep DB'ing.
Sorry for all of the long posts, my world just feels like one second it in on the right path, the next it is blowing up in my face.
