It is very scary to see things change that fast. I don't think I will ever feel 100% safe in a relationship again. I could understand a failed marriage after years of troubles, but this is totally different.
I agree.....this has proven to me that people and relationships change quickly - too quickly. Another thing that is coming from my experience, which I do not like, is that I am losing my faith in people. I have always been a very trusting person and gave people the benefit of doubt. But through this sitch when I have confided in people: W, IL's, a few friends, OMW, they have trampled on my trust..... The thing that I do not get is that I can see no benefit in what they have/are doing.
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I often wonder if it is just a character flaw in my H that caused him to deal with life's challenges in this way, or if we all are more likely to cheat than we want to believe.
I also think about this....I never would have thought that my W would be capable of cheating. It goes against how she was raised, and her beliefs.
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think it is all about opportunity and character. Some people will never let themselves get into a situation where there is a possibility of friendship turning EA then PA, whilst others will.
I agree.... I have always been very cautious about my friendships, probably to cautious, I never wanted to cross that line. Our W's on the other hand where to care free about their friendships not thinking anything more would come from them. Well....something more did come from it and it destroyed their families.
