First here is a hug for you, (((Matilda))), 'cuz I know this SUCKS! But I think you will be much better served by being angry right now rather than hurt.
What is it about these aliens that think they are worthy of being anyone's friend with the way they are acting? I am convinced that is just a ploy to keep a hurt spouse on the line until they get what they think they want.
Be strong and protect yourself and your DD. You are in my prayers.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011