Sorry you are here to. The story you posted sounds a lot like mine. However, we were never blessed with children, but faced infertility for years before my H up and left me for OW (of course she is less attractive, trashy, etc.). We actually went through a failed IVF cycle 2 months before his A started. This story seems just way too common. Check out my threads if you would like to read more on sitch. Take care.
Last edited by hopeless11; 07/06/0712:36 PM.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Thank you so much for your message. I am so sad to hear about your neighbor's situation and yours. It is so awful that our spouses have giving up everything for people that they barely know. I don't understand it, but I all I know, is that I have to continue to focus on me. I am not sure how long this has been going on with you, but I promise, it gets better. I have been seperated from my H since Dec. It is going on 8 months and I feel great. I'm healthy (after 3 months of no eat or sleep) and I have been continuously working out. I believe this has been the best medicine. My prayers are with you and your family. Remember, keep your chin up high and always remember that you are the better person.
I have tried raw oysters and I like them. I believe what you say about us having to step out of our boxes. I went desert hunting with some friends. In the end, I really didn't care for it, but hey, I am up for trying new things. Life is too short to waste on our spouses. I believe that as long as we keep trying new things, then as time progresses it only helps us feel better.
Today was interesting.....I had to go to the district office to take care of paperwork, this is where my H's office is and the OW. As I was walking in, he was walking out (I had the babies with me), he stopped to hold the babies for a few minutes, asked what I was doing there (duh, I work there too), and I wanted to reply "None of your Business," but instead, I said, "Taking Care of Business." He said "Oh, well, I can hold one of the babies if you want to go take care of what you need too." I told him that it is okay, because I have been asked by some of the ladies in the office, to bring in the babies. At first, I wasn't going to stop, because I saw that they were both working (by their vehicles), but then I thought, "why not?" I work for the same district and I have every right to be in the office and if they don't like it, then "oh, well" that is there problem. So I went in and had a great visit. The OW's office and my H's office is at the other end of the building, so I really wouldn't see her. However, she walked down the hallway, by the office I was in, and she saw me with my babies. I didn't even look at her, but saw her out of the corner of my eye. How this ended up for me??? GREAT! It didn't affect me, I walked in happy and I walked out happy. I hadn't really thought twice about it, until now. I'm so thankful to be at this point. It really helps that I am on summer break and I have a few weeks left before I have to be back to work. Time really does work wonders. I just keep thinking that even in a few months I will be doing better. Now, the only thing is my court date, Aug. 2. Keep your fingers crossed for me. I need to have my babies more! Oh yeah, let me mention that I looked good, when I saw him. I have lost so much weight (i'm sure you can realate), but I am pretty toned due to the fact that I have been training for a marathon. On the otherhand, the OW is overweight and not very cute. I hope he ate his heart out today ( I am also pretty tan)!
Thanks FA, I had a good laugh as well! Thank you light switch, I feel like I am almost to the the top (well at least mid-way). It's been a long, treacherous climb.
