My mother just made a valid point regarding who moves where.

If I stay and he goes, what will ensure he pays the mortgage? If he has a great time "out there" then I could very easily be left holding the bag and getting the house ready for sale by myself, etc.
Right now, he is in the frame of mind where he would help me move. If he had to move out and then back, then he probably wouldn't be very helpful.

Personally, I feel like since *I* don't want this, *I* shouldn't be forced to do all the work to make it happen.

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing