Originally Posted By: fearless
Learning to take care of yourself is good. Check
Learning to hide things from people to protect their feelings is not good. I didn't and don't really hide things.
Learning to hide and deny the fact that you want things is not good. Didn't hide or deny but took responsibility for figuring out how to get it myself


Are you sure? You mentioned protecting other people's feelings. How did you do that exactly?

Originally Posted By: fearless

Learning to take the blame for problems stemming from other people's mental disorders is not good. I don't really take the blame but I do tend to try to overhelp people. It's not my fault but I do want to help them feel better.


And if they didn't feel better? Did you feel you had failed them?

It took a while for me to figure out that there sometimes isn't a way to make other people feel better; they'll feel better when they're ready to feel better and not before.

a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.