Any time you try to bring up, do something to or talk to the OP. IT blows up in your face. The ONLY time I would do this is when you have given up and want to Nuke the sitch. Then it may make the OP go away or doom any R with the spouse. So it's kind of an all or nothing move. I know My W OM just used her for an out of state lay. But I can't tell her this. It hurts knowing he was just using her and how I want to bad to protect my wife and Kick his ass. But I can't. She wants to protect him. She won't bereave it. That is my nuke. Some day I will have a talk with him. It may be in a year or it may be 10 years I have all the time in the world. Contacting him is the last thing on my mind now. husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
