Yes I agree. If he attempts this again next time I wil tell him why si it I am good enough to fu**,but not good enough to live with/be married to?
My freind wants me to video taped him w/ his sexual advances and send it to his OW. What is you guys take on this? I think H will only come up w/ some good lie & she will believe him & they will only get closer together.
I'd say bad, bad idea. It would only make him really, really mad. I don't think that would help you in any way.
If you look at, I think, EMC's thread, the OM's W actually called his W and told her that he had asked for the videotape the OM's W had done by a detective. Only resulted in p*ssing EMC's W off.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Thanks Cade! Just what I thought. Also, a few months ago when my H first opened up about the possibility of him coming back home. The 1st thing he said was " I know you will probably throw this all back on my face and tell her everything I said". I said no I dont care about her enough to do that. I really wanted to make him feel "safe" to come to me with any of his feelings.
Any time you try to bring up, do something to or talk to the OP. IT blows up in your face. The ONLY time I would do this is when you have given up and want to Nuke the sitch. Then it may make the OP go away or doom any R with the spouse. So it's kind of an all or nothing move. I know My W OM just used her for an out of state lay. But I can't tell her this. It hurts knowing he was just using her and how I want to bad to protect my wife and Kick his ass. But I can't. She wants to protect him. She won't bereave it. That is my nuke. Some day I will have a talk with him. It may be in a year or it may be 10 years I have all the time in the world. Contacting him is the last thing on my mind now. husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
