Do I buy a house? What about sex?

[Trixi]

He has given you some hints. He'd like you to be "sassier." You should have put your foot down "a long time ago."

Well, better late than never. Figure out exactly what you are willing to put up with, and what NOT. Then tell him very directly what you expect of him.

Do not move out. Don't even think about it. Tell him if he wants to live alone, there's the door. It's your house and you're not going anywhere.

He pays the mortgage (I don't make anywhere near enough to pay it). Ultimately, it would end up being his house.

As for who sleeps where, I wouldn't make any moves unless he has done something to justify cutting him off (ie, an affair).

How he responds to this approach will tell you what your next move is. Of course, this all assumes you don't want a divorce.

I feel like if I let him stay in the bed and give him the booty call, that we will be back where we were when he went out til all hours of the morning with no call, etc. On Saturday night he "went to a friends" and didn't arrive back home until 11am Sunday. No call from him to let me know. He is trying to live like he is single. He did end up telling me where he was, etc, (not with a woman), but none-the-less, he is doing the same stuff he did years ago that I object to.

I absolutely do NOT want a divorce, but also do not want our relationship as it is. I think that the only way for that to happen is for him to choose me. For him to really know that he can't be without me.