can't really say she was getting choked up, but at one point it seemed like she had to fight back some tears (she was looking down so I couldn't really tell).
GoneDancing,
You like to be rational, correct? You are going through a difficult time and so is your W. She is considering leaving this M and she knows that in her heart that the this is not good for the kids. She knows that her future is uncertain. You did well by apologizing and now she faces the guilt and responsibility for what happens from this point on. Sure, you made an irrational decision by filing, but you un-did that mistake and apologized. You need to be forgiven. You want to make this M work and you are handling yourself well. Women are emotional and they solely rely on their feelings. Whatever their feelings tell them to do, they do. Your W seems to be friendly with you. I picture a woman wanting a D to be grouchy and other things. Don't allow fear to stop you from getting what you want. We fear that we won't be loved again by our spouse. We fear rejecting. Don't let this control you.
I have a question for you. Why do you want your W back? In order to be more action oriented, you need 'Reasons' before you can start to get solutions. Once you really think about why you want your W back you will know what to do. Keep trying. I can't stress this enough. If she reacts in a bad way, do not do it again. Try something else.
Good Luck!
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
