For counseling to be effective, an individual has to want to change and be open to counseling. People reach this stage at different stages in their life. A good counselor will tell you that they are only able to focus on YOU. They can help you become an ideal partner, but they can't do anything about what your W does or says. They can advise you, but they don't know much about your W, just what you have shared. I imagine that you have shared only the 'problems' that you perceive. You could ask your W to speak to your counselor to give them her perspective on what you can improve upon. Tell your W that you want to be totally honest with this counselor and you feel that she may be able to provide more info for the counselor. You are not asking her to go to counseling, just asking her to give the counselor info on how to make you a better person for YOU only. Try this approach.
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
