Mrs NOP To be vulnerable may lead to rejection. Rejection leads to pain. Pain leads to withdrawal Some of the steps I have taken.
Withdrawal leads to emotional isolation. Doing that some times, but I get out of that state too.
For me it is control - to receive is to concentrate on yourself. If you're concentrating on yourself, you are being selfish. Ok, I relate to that. I call it leadership. She calls it control. BB clues in on the control factor.
If you're being selfish, the other person may not be having a good time. May so maybe not. What is the cut off point. Not having a good time because they don't like the activity, can't/won't allow it because the activity was not their idea.
It's your fault because you got them to do it. Fault leads to pain. Pain leads to emotional isolation. Some/lots of times it appears to go like this.
