CE - the "wants" are what gets people into trouble. H and I both make a point of not saying "I want" something because it implies it is a necessity (which most of the time we know to be quite the opposite). Needs, on the other hand, are quite a different story.
My father-in-law used to say "it's not what people need that creates the problems in the world, it's what they WANT" - no truer words have been spoken
I'm not sure I follow. Isn't it the cardinal error of the Nice Guy that he pretends he has no wants, and isn't it a given that people do have wants and should feel perfectly entitled to go after some of their wants (i.e., those that don't conflict with their duties)?
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
