I am so sorry that you are going through this. It seems like your W, like my H, will use whatever you say or do against you in order to make themselves feel better. Being on the same side as you, I completely agree with what you told your wife. Yeah, you probably shouldn't have said it only because our spouses cannot reason. They are irrational. We all take fault for problems in our marriages, but like you said earlier no one is perfect. However, turning to someone else only creates more problems and destroys families. Having an affair is selfish. In her heart, she has to know that ending your marriage is going to hurt your girls and she has to look at herself in the mirror and realize that she is to blame for not trying to make things right with you. I might have missed this somewhere, but is your W still seeing OM? Her reaction makes me think that she is.
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