You did a great job, the others are right, you need to give her the space, and just get on with your own life, I know it will be hard, but it what has to happen, don't sit and wait for her to change her mind, you need to show her your ok and you need to see that for yourself too! You will be fine and you will come through this!. Things will get easier to deal with little by little, that I am sure of!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!