Lou, I don't think it's limited to gender. I scored high 30s myself. I do think it has differing impacts between genders.
You and I both came from impoverished backgrounds. We learned to "not want". Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think you and I share similar issues in that it's very difficult to ask people to do things for us, or to "impose" our wants and wishes on other people.
When men act this way, it can derail their masculinity and can produce a "princess syndrome" in the wife. When women act this way, it can derail the development of their sexuality.
I do think it has differing impacts between genders.