In ERC's defense, guys, I believe he was trying to stay away from OMW until his lawyer advised him that he needed her story, deposition, whatever. I didn't remember about there being a PI tape, but I'm sure the lawyer wanted to be thorough.
ERC,
OMW's phone call, the tape, etc, are all just excuses for her not to go. Certainly, it made for a convenient excuse but why did W not bring it up until you mentioned the retreat? The key word here is "especially." The answer was already no.
Think about it logically. The tape and any other info from OMW only makes a difference to your divorce, not to your marriage. Tell her the truth--that your lawyer told you to do this, and in a lawsuit you take your lawyer's advise. Your W is mad because you are not letting her have her way. But giving her what she wants will not keep her with you.
