Thanks for the explanation about the "change". Many parralels to my H. Does give me some insight. Except instead of highly motivated "pusher" he became my jailer. I often referred to him as the warden because of the way he needed to control and dominate my life.
Funny thing is we have sort of reverse roles. I am more the "husband" and he is more of the "wife" ie...he does lots of nagging, wining, and complaining about my activities. Similar to how some wives act towards their husband. I listen to the gents at work with how their wives tend to act similar to my husband and it became very clear, that I have a "wife" not a husband. Its become the office joke, that I couldn't go out for a beer after work because the "wife" would be mad if I got home later than usual etc etc. Asking "permission" to do everything is a terrible way to live!
PS: Its not really funny, its very sad because this is one fo the behaviors that drove me away.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
