Waw, when you left, did you really care about what was going to happen? What I mean is, my W told her forend that she felt she wanted to leave, but she was scared to, she hasn't contacted a lawyer because she chickensh*t (her words), if you relly wanted out, would you care about that stuff?
Of course I really cared what was going to happen. I think most WAW do care and the #1 reason we got in this mess was probably caring too much about what was going to happen than caring about how we felt to begin with. I was scared to death to make the move to finally lay it all on the line and say I was leaving. Yes, Chickens**t is exactly what many of us are or else we would have taken action long before the only option left was to leave.
As far as contacting a lawyer, that sounds like the final nail in the coffin. I think many WAW need time and space and if there is no "OM" in the picture really would like to try and work things out if its possible rather than just go for the D. I wouldn't expect a truly confused WAW to run out and contact an atty. If she did that, then her mind is probably made up for the most part. Just makes the LBS have to work extra hard to change thier WAS mind. Her not doing that shows she is still open to other possibilities. Chickens**t works in your favor...gives you time to enact some of the strategies and change her mind before she goes to the atty.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
