Do what KML recommends. It's important that you protect your children when you're not there and you may have to assume primary care if she is violent. Abuse victims have a mantra "I'll do it next time." The unlucky ones end up dead. Protect your health and safety as your children need you. You are the stable one and if she lost it, threw something hard and hits you just right you will be dead or paralysed or blinded in that heartbeat moment of passionate anger and your children lose. Get it done.
I have enough "evidence" already. Between the prior police report I filed and the witnesses to the drinking episodes (she told me yesterday that she knew she "lost the kids" when I got a call at 1am New Year's from the hostess of the party she was at where she passed out drunk on their couch (not sure I understood the statement since she had already agreed to split the kids time 50-50 - unless she wasn't really planning on following through with that agreement)). The door has been repaired, and I didn't take photos - but the repair is visible and there were witnesses. So if there is any more trouble what-so-ever, I can easily show this issue to the cops.
Ever since, things have dropped back to normal. We went through and divied the house items today. I basically let her keep what she wanted. I can replace the items with new stuff over the next year. Only short term items will be a bed for D14 and a TV - but that is what plasma is for! And about 1000 kitchen items, but that is what Crate and Barrel is for!
I went to some friends tonight for dinner, and driving home I was enjoying thinking about being single. I think for the first time I felt happy about it - especially with the door breaking episode really driving home how screwed up W is. I am going to upgrade, that is for sure!
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
Just remember not to upgrade to Girlfriend 2007 (I really suggest Girlfriend 2008 but it won't be released until next year.) until operating system Wife 1.0 is removed by a court technician. You'll also need to re-read the manual and then take some FTC's (FemaleTechnologyCourses) because things have changed over the years since you installed Wife 1.0 and the logic's a bit different (and oft too commercial in my own opinion!). I suggest studying Dating 2007 and Flirting 2007 before getting Girlfriend 2008. They're new apps, but it's the same old logic so you should do well when Girlfriend 2008 arrives on the shelves.
I forgot to mention. When you've installed OS Single 2007/2008 be careful. It's not a multiprocessor like Wife 1.0 and that means that everything runs a bit slower. Also, when using application Dating 2007 there have been reports of a virus that turns it into Girlfriend 2007. Not necessarily a bad thing, but the child processes don't always work well with that app. Another thing is recent reports of Girlfriend 2007 also causing havoc in OS Single 2007/2008 and sometimes that morphs into wife/fiance 2008 before the OS is ready. Child processes don't work well under those conditions and it can really cause a headache. I'd be very careful with Dating 2007 until you've read the manual and would probably stick with Flirting 2007 for the first while. It's not as fulfilling as Dating 2007 but most of the lessons learned with that app can be ported.
Just a reminder to keep an eye on the child processes, especially when the court technician works on removing Wife 1.0. It tries to act like an operating system, but it's really just an app on top of the original OS Single. Sometimes Wife 1.0 merges with OS Single to become Happy Couple OS with intertwining processes and full dual processing capability but I've read it only happens about 25% of the time so don't be discouraged. Wife 2.0 should work better but I'd really wait a long time for that since the child processes require a lot of adaptation and programming and it's a difficult and time consuming job to get everything to synch up properly.
Just remember not to upgrade to Girlfriend 2007 (I really suggest Girlfriend 2008 but it won't be released until next year.) until operating system Wife 1.0 is removed by a court technician. You'll also need to re-read the manual and then take some FTC's (FemaleTechnologyCourses) because things have changed over the years since you installed Wife 1.0 and the logic's a bit different (and oft too commercial in my own opinion!). I suggest studying Dating 2007 and Flirting 2007 before getting Girlfriend 2008. They're new apps, but it's the same old logic so you should do well when Girlfriend 2008 arrives on the shelves.
The FSOS (Female Single Operating System) is pretty much the same, it has the Husband 1.0 app. They don't run on the same processor type and it's a little different in operation but the logic is compatible and it comes with apps like Boyfriend 2007. Wouldn't recommend the Boyfriend app while running Husband 1.0.
Of course the FSOS is a little more complex and comes with the basic (and sometimes, confusingly and randomly the Advanced Version) Flirting app as standard.
Wouldn't recommend the Boyfriend app while running Husband 1.0.
No kidding! Tried to install that once - not enough memory - system damn near crashed
For the record, Husband 1.0 was caused FMOS 1.0 to COMPLETELY crash. And burn. Husband 2.0 was a huge improvement, as was the upgraded FMOS, but over time the software became outdated, causing system lock-ups and revealing inherent weaknesses in FMOS as well. Am in the process of upgrading FMOS to FSOS and defragmenting the hard drive, but there are a LOT of files to transfer and many of them are corrupted. But many are also worth keeping and building upon.
So, it will be a laborious process to sort through it all, but as long as FMOS and Husband 2.0 are not running, it should be a smooth process and worth it in the long run: a faster, smoother running system capable of handling some powerful new software, and some cool new peripherals.
Now, I need to find me a power strip...it's packed in one of these boxes around here somewhere
Funny. I actually plan to take the FTC later in the year, and promised myself not to install Dating 2007 until FTC is run, but wait for the upgrade. I would like to run Friends2007 and Flirting2007, which I really need at this point.
But there are some other apps that are taking up most of the processes, namely NewLivingLocale and NewJob. Those will take up most of the processing time for a few cycles.
I know what you are saying about the child processes. I have three installed, and the first looks like it will run cleanly, because it has been running the housecleaning program Acceptance 1.0. The new processes have not been able to boot that app yet, and so we are installing FamilyCounselor 1.0 this week. We hope that will clean up the two newer child processes, too.
I have been running Counselor4Adults.exe for almost three years now and feel I have removed most viruses. I plan to continue to run that app for a few more cylces as I run NewLivingLocale, because I think that app can mitigate some damage from Moving 3.0.
Finances 4.0 is having core dumps (mostly due to the two large app, MyAtty and HerAtty taking ALL of the cache), but once I terminate NewLivingLocale I shoud be able to boot that app successfully.
I just hope the DoorSmash app that W installed last week doesn't get run again. Then I would have to invoke the interrupt routine 911, and that would crash the entire system.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
