Hmmm, this actually sounds like MLC too. I am sorry that you went through it. Snooping is painful. he was totally in the wrong. There were many late nights my H was also unnaccounted for and I almost wished he was in jail or at the hospital instead of imagining him with OW, which he stills deny and I am not 100% sure even exists. It is probably ture that he was, like 40-60%. Not 100%, maybe EA, I dunno. Your H words were awful, maybe he is a typical MLC man or maybe he is a Scott Peterson? Just think that you are free of him for now, as painful as the separation and betrayal may be. Do not become physical with him. That is not OK, no pushing, slapping, verbal abuse. Start from the beginning. Read the book. You seemed to have decided to get a divorce so act with dignity. No snooping allowed. Take care of yourself and get a separate cell phone. You will be thankful you did.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
