When I was in Law School, One of my professors warned us about blindly pursuing a victory to the detriment of our client. The example he gave was something called A Monkey Trip. It involved putting a piece of candy through a small hole in a heavy coconut. The monkey would slip his hand and grab the candy, and then find he couldn't pull his clenched fist back out through the opening. The monkey wanted the candy so badly that he couldn't let go and slip his hand free. With the heavy coconut on his arm he couldn't run or climb, making him easy to catch. Because he couldn't let go of the thing he so desired, he suffered a worse fate. I am ready to let go.
I think this is the situation a lot of us are in. We can let go without giving up and maybe out sitches will change. Sometimes we have to let the candy go. The candy being our burdens and worries. I thought of a lot of us on here when i read this and it made so much sense. So many of us are in the coconut hole called a marriage. We desire to save it so much that that we are suffering a worse fate. Some of it depression, some of it abuse, whatever...We are willing to deal with a lot to save our marriages. Sometimes we have to let go and better ourselves.
