I'm not up on your particular sitch, but I think we are in really similar places right now. Wish I could offer a solution, but I just spent a half hour yelling at a (willing) surrogate so I can be calm when I talk to the W tonight.
I'm just gonna second Nomo's motion for now.
P.S. I'm an animation junkie, and have found a lot of deep spiritual meaning in a cartoon called "Samurai Jack". Sounds stupid, I know, but when the pressure is on I sometimes think of the main character's unshakeable calm, and it has helped me out a couple of times.
