Isnt that what this is really all about? As the books say, in any scenario you will know that you took the high ground and gave it your all. You cant control what she does (nor should any of us) so why fight it. Just day-day.
I'm not sure i am giving it my all mate. I've left her to her own & given her space, even though she has not asked for it. She wanted to leave & move on, those were her words more or less. I have let her do that, I think thats all I can do. Sometimes I just don't know though, sometimes I have to convince myself that I am doing all I can in this sitch. When I can see clear that I am, it's ok, when I can't, it is not. I hope when all this is over I can sit back & say, I did all I could. I never want to think if only I did this, that or the other. I guess everyone say's & thinks the same things.
20 yrs of being together appears to mean nothing to her. It's funny how 2 weeks of the OM canceled out all those years, 2 weeks erases 20 years lol. I do try to not talk about the OM, but she met him 2 weeks before she left me. I do wish her the happiness that she seeks but something tells me that this thing with the OM won't work out. He's a heavy smoker & W hates that, he has kids that lost their mother & I can only see that it will be hard for W to fit into their lives. If/when it does go down she will more than likely lose the support of the friends that are shouting her on too. Her friend that she is staying with is the OM's sister & if it does not work out I really can't see that the W will be friends with her very long either.
Well today has been not so good, which to be honest does not happen that often, i'm ok most of the time.
