There is funny/reality and there is political bias.
Which can be a REAL fine line sometimes
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Anyway, it sounds like they stumbled on a world-class therapist-- even average therapists can accomplish good things for people.
True LP - the first therapist we had, before he referred us to this guy, was what I would consider "average" - he had his good and bad points but we reached a level where he just couldn't help us anymore. He recognized that but we also did, well before he did. H and I had talked about how to approach him about referring us to someone else. This doesn't mean he didn't do us any good, because he did. As a matter of fact, as an initial therapist, I think he was a good choice. H needed someone that wasn't too in his face. Now that he is more stable, emotionally, he can handle the guy we have now and this guy can really handly my H - which is even better
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
But, is it stupid or is it just a lack of attention span when they were told the first two times?
I think it is something similar to mouth in gear, mind in neutral, using a mechanics metaphor.
Or be my daddy/mommy/nanny so they don't have to be responsible. In some rare cases the power switch thing might be the caller has other things in their life that is over stressing them. I don't know the people that well personally so will not pass final judgment.
Power switches seem so basic to me but I have had to press some strange looking items a time or two. When windows went to the now standard click on [start] then click on [turn off computer], that was something I had to fumble with a few minuets before I learned the process. That is one of the hazards when working alone.
When I work with other people, I always learn new things. Not too different than on the fourm here.
Hey sweetie, I just realized we haven't heard from you in awhile. How are you doing? Things ok?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Had the usual ups and downs and a heated discussion yesterday (pretty much about nothing) but things are smoothed out today (just a few bad memories)
The next couple of weeks are going to be rough. ST is on holidays and our next appointment isn't until the 23rd. But maybe this is a good test. After all, we can't rely on him forever now can we? Eventually we will have to fly the coup and be on our own. It's just right now I feel I still have my pin feathers and can barely glide, let alone fly.
Yesterday we went to a barbeque with a bunch of people where I just started working. I was a little reluctant, as I don't like those things at the best of times, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to meet some people and also put myself out there a little (GAL you know). I was bound and determined I was going to go regardless of whether or not H went. Yesterday was (apparently) fight night, but H had already said he would go with me to the barbeque before he found out. I am sure that is what made him so snappy all day, thinking "oh great, I have to spend the evening with all these snobby lawyers when I could be at fight night". We ended up pretty ticked at each other because he was just picking at any little thing. Finally I said, if you don't want to go, just say so. But it was like he reluctantly capilulated and we went (still strained and you could cut the air). But we eased off by the time we got there (a 30 minute drive) and actually had a pretty good time. They are a SUPER bunch of people and not your usual lawyer crowd. Even H said (numerous times) he had a "really good" evening and "looked forward" to getting together with some of them again. It was at the house of the lawyer I work with (amazing place) and she was bragging me up (saying I was the best paralegal in the firm, my work was exceptional, how lucky they were to have me on board etc.) - sheesh it's amazing I could get my head through the doorway by the time she was finished - lol
Nothing like a little ego boost to bring you out of the doldrums though.
H was supposed to get his blood test results back tomorrow but has to go for another appointment that couldn't be changed and had to take precedent. So now it is put off until the 16th - Every day is like torture.
ST wanted us to do two sessions of sensate focusing this week and I have left it up to H to decide when, he said he wanted to be a little more "spontaneous" so I left it at that and nothing has happened (am I surprisd? NO!!) so, we will have to give him a little reminder, since it is my homework too. However, in all due fairness, it was been EXTREMELY hot the last 10 days and the thought of anyone touching me is not pleasant. I am sure he feels the same way (guess its time to think about getting some air conditioning installed - lol)
To end off, I heard a new saying that has stuck with me:
"the most beautiful future will always depend on the need for forgetting the past. You must overcome the errors of the past and all that hurt you"
I have to work on that one
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Hot in Canada, try 107f on Thursday afternoon. Then last night's rain storm when it was 65f.
sheesh it's amazing I could get my head through the doorway by the time she was finished - lol Feels good once in a while, doesn't it? :0
"the most beautiful future will always depend on the need for forgetting the past. You must overcome the errors of the past and all that hurt you" That is one step in the process toward a better life.
You know anyone like in "The Men in Black" that can erase a person's mind and all/most of the old baggage?
Glad to hear the barbeque went well. My take on most events is, there is always some one that is interesting in a group.
The GoldWingers were in town. I never met any of them before but had a pleasant chat with severl at different stores I went to during the week.
Glad the BBQ went well. Hope you're not stressing too much about the test results. I'm glad you two seemed to work out the kinks w/o too much trouble and ended up in a good place together at the BBQ & afterwards.
Haven't seen GEL around lately??
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
GEL's been busy at work - but I am sure she will give her two cents worth eventually (she can't resist - lol)
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I'm around guys, just dealing with a 4-year old at home..due to not being able to get him to his sitter because of flooding...and trying to get some work done at the office remotely :-)
Heywyre...when it comes to the BBQ I'm prompted to ask you this question. When he was acting so put out and nit-picky why didn't you just tell him you didn't want him to go rather than asking him if he wanted to? I mean, call him on his snotty behavior and make the choice to have fun without him and his attitude...rather than dealing with someone reluctantly going along with a sour attitude. Remember his reaction to your honesty is not YOUR problem, it's his.
FWIW though I'm glad things worked out in the end anyway and you had a great time!
GEL - well, what I actually said to him was "if you don't want to go just turn around and go home and I will go by myself" so there was no way he was getting his way, either he went along with me or I would go by myself. I wasn't about to change my plans for him. I have done that way too many times
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
