All fine here, at the moment....Friday night is on the town night, so it's anyones guess how I will be later lol Going out with some of the guys & girls from work tonight so should be a good one.
Hey Strange First time to say hi to you. THe biggest thing I struggled w/ in my sitch was advice from a pastor who said "time is on your side, not your enemy right now!" I did not believe him at that time and I'm like, it has been 30 days, WTF??? In our world, it is OK, we have prob, lets address it and fix it! right? So, 4 mos later and a lot of soul searching, I have figure out he is right.
Have a good day mate! I just popped in here, why are we using mate? Australian connection? I worked for an Australian bank and man did our personalities clash!
CVA
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
You are right time is on our side. In my R sitch things don't appear to have changed that much but the positive to that, is things have not got worse either. However, for me & my own GAL sitch things are much better & I think, continue to improve by the week. So yes, time is without doubt, on out our side
I will check in with your thread later mate....oh, & about the mate thing..It's also a popular UK phrase which is where I am from (England)
Thanks agian...& i'm off to nurse my sore head lol
Been doing some thinking over the last day or so & i'm not sure how much longer I want this to go on. I don't think there is much I can do as regards my R, except to leave it well alone & that feels like I am doing nothing at all. I have not had any contact with W for just over two weeks, the last time I spoke to her was when she called me about picking up some of her dvd's. She says she wants to sort the D stuff out & said that she would come & talk about it, she has not done so. I know that time is on my side with that but I have to say that I don't think I want that time.
This may be a little frustration coming out of me but I really am very close to just calling her & saying get the f**king D started. I am sick of it, She says she wants it but does nothing about it except to tell me I have to file myself. At the moment I won't do that but I want to tell her to get on with it, if she wants it. She has to know that I don't give a crap what she wants & she is responsable for the choices she has made for herself.
Right now I can't help but think, she is thinking that i'm sat waiting in the wings for her to change her mind & that she can just walk right back if things dont quite work out for her. She has to know that may not be the case. Maybe she thinks I cant take the thought of D & thats why she has not done anything or said anything else on the matter? she also has to know that I can, I would sign those dam papers right now.
If she has doubts about her actions & choices thats her problem to sort out,i'm getting passed caring. I'm sure the OM & her suppoting friends will help her through it, they've played a part in all along, so carry on.
Thats the end of my little rant as I could go on for quite some time.
No need to be sorry strange, as I am right there with you. I am getting that impatient feeling also. Was going to write a "let er rip" type letter today, but am to tired. Hang in ther buddy!
Strange, I don't know your whole sitch...I'll have to read up on it. But you have to do what you want to do. If you really want to get back together someday then you have to hang on. I would not file the D papers. I don't know how that would help anything. Go on with your life and concentrate on improving you. I think there are other ways to show her that you are not going to go on like this forever. Get out and have fun, see other people if thats what you want. I hope this helps! Matt
No need to be sorry strange, as I am right there with you. I am getting that impatient feeling also. Was going to write a "let er rip" type letter today, but am to tired. Hang in ther buddy!
Thanks NDDT
I guess frustration is a funny thing & it probably brings out the worst in us. Hang in there also mate & take care
My GAL is good right now & i'm sure it's improving too. It's maybe that my own life is pretty good right now & thats why I would rather just get this sorted out & put to bed. I will try to wait as long as I can but I feel that it will be me that makes contact & tells her to do what she wants.
As you can tell, we all get this way. I wrote the letter myself, knowing I would rip it up, but nonetheless it helped me get stuff out that I normally would not even put here for this crowds' eyes.
Just know this feeling will pass. I hear ya, you may be there mentally, but it really cant hurt to do nothing. At the end of the day, what you would have in a do nothing scenario is your life in full gear and a piece of paper that says you are still married while she wallows in her own self doubt. That actually seems ok doesnt it?
Hope that helps CVA
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
