You said that your W was 'codependent' with your Daughter.

What you have to also look at is that your Daughter is also codependent on W.

So, when you pick her up, you need to get her out of W's influence quickly because they play off each other subtle cues.

My Brother in law had a similar problem with his sons and his ex W.

If you let the 'hand off' linger too long they freak out (mom and the kid). You must make it quick, painless and DECISIVE.

It's for all of their good. You can do this.

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