Pick up the pieces when you go

[Yoyowife]

I'm not ready to "date" but I just want to have a life and be around people. I recently ran into a man that I dated my senior year in HS and some of my freshman year in college. The funny thing is I broke up with him back then and then he started dating someone else and I couldn't stand it. I wanted him back so bad, but it never happened. For a long time I had a hard time getting over him. I then met my H and started dating him, even though, back then I think if my ex bf had given me one more chance I would have dumped my H who was my bf at the time. Well, funny thing is now the old bf is calling me and asking me to hang out. I keep putting him off, because first of all I'm married,even though I'm going through a divorce and second I have no interest in him other than a friend. Part of me would like to tell him I would love to hang out if it was in a group situation and he understood it was just friends. I do need to get out, but I certainly don't want to lead him on. My social life is so limited because all of my friends are married. I would like to make new friends, but if I started hanging out with him and his friends I think I may be treading in dangerous territory. He has called me and offered me advice and sympathy because he went through the same thing a few years ago. It's so funny how 20 something years ago I thought he was the one, but now I have no feelings for him. We are so different. Any thoughts?