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I don't think anyone here is ready to give up yet, I like that part of this area, always hopeful most of the time. The thing that scares me is that if I have a chance, and it takes a long time, is that I will make a stupid comment or do a stupid act that will finish it in her eyes.
I also have people telling me both ways, in a way I do like hearing both view points even if I disagree, it at least makes me think. The other problem I have in having a chance at us working back together is the hurt she is piling on me, and especially our son, not that I have not hurt her plenty of times emotionally, so I do take that into consideration, that and I do not believe she know how much I am hurting.
My thinking is that if a spouse does not know which way to go, they should go with the attempt and sooner the better, but then again that is wishful thinking.
The causal bantor that goes on some nights is also a relief, I can come and moan in here, complain, have an up day, ask a question and also relax and laugh to where it does take my mind off of my situation from time to time and with people who are in the same boat.
We are not alone.