I can't wait to hear how well the 4th went for you Nikki.

I'm almost releived to see there isn't pages and pages that I've missed! I've been away from the computer a lot since being with family in KS, so I'm just kinda checkin in with you. What you said about it's easier if it's you that "messes up". I totally understand. It's really about control. If WE mess up and cause the problem, we can fix it. If they do it for who knows what, we have no control over the sitch. So I totally understand.

Don't focus so much on what's wrong though, try to remember what your doing different that makes the GOOD sitchs happen like for the 4th and just keep at it. We do have influence in how our spouses react, but you aren't influencing everything, so don't let his bad reactions dissappoint you or bring you down.

take care, talk to you soon.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."