Couple of things to add to Atlas'. In reading your thread over again, I saw where W said she wanted a "clean slate" & nothing from the past, etc. In thinking of diff. ways to stall/stop D action, could you maybe add this into letting her know somehow (haven't thought of best way yet), that you completely agree w/ her wanting a clean slate & her wanting to let go of the past, & add that a D is always possible later. You both see things the same way now & agree that she needs space.
I can't quite get my mind wrapped around what I'm trying to say here. What did you tell her b/f about changing your mind on the D? Was the only time w/ the L conveying message, or was it you, in person?
Not right away, as you agreed, but maybe 2 wks b/f final date so you can keep DBing.
L&L, Sunny
On a side note regarding the DUI; I served on a jury 10 yrs ago where there was no test taken either. He was acquited. Of course, I don't know how yours will come out, but a good sign still the same.
My MIL, the best Irish mum, was killed by a drunk driver 4 yrs ago. She was hit by his truck as she came around the back of their car. So.... very happy that you're no longer drinking & the lesson wasn't as severe as the results of his bad choice was.
