As an experienced Mom, I would say don't let a kid's tears change the plans. Children need to get over separation anxiety. The more you feed it the worse it gets.
I do agree with you. That is why I just try to get in and get out. My W called and left a VM. "Hey babe, I missed your text, I want to see how long she cried for and how she is doing right now." I had to listen to the message 3 times. I was floored that she said, babe.
I called her back and told her that D3 cried all the way here (30 minutes) and was still fussy. I told her that she is doing good now. My said that she thinks D3 is crying when she doesn't get her way and she hopes that she will get over this. I told my W that D3 needs stability and this is hard on her to have to leave. I said that it doesn't matter how we label how she is acting, it is hard on D3. My W got all upset and said, good bye.
Whatever! I let it roll right off of my back. Reality is setting in and she doesn't like it. I can look in the mirror and look D3 in her eyes when she gets older and asks me what happened and tell her that I did EVERYTHING to save our marriage and I was the only one who tried. If my W stays on this crazy course.
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
