Go for it girl - post some of the poetry - we all need a good laugh and what better thing to do than laugh at the OW/OM?
I too have serious worries about my children and what it has all done to them. Sometimes my D's are so up in arms about what their dad did but other times they are so 'just get over it mum'!!
The books that one reads about infidelity often seem to talk about it being a repeated family pattern down family generations. Does that mean my D's are going to marry B@$!@rds and that my son will do the same to his wife that his dad has done to me. My son(12) is still the one who comes and finds me at quiet moments when he sees how sad I am to give me a quiet hug - I just pray he never does the same thing to his wife. Mind you on a lighter note I do keep telling him he needs to get better acquainted with water and soap if he ever wants to get a wife! Why is it 12 yr old boys can smell like sweaty hamsters?
Really want to read some of that poetry delia. Go one, be a devil and post some!!
Just a thought, how about we swap OW's email addresses and have some fun? (Only joking but it is real tempting).
Hugs and prayers
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Delia and Saffie, Ya'll are great, you can always bring a smile to my face with your humor.
I too would love to make fun of the poems. We all could make fun of them, it would be kind like all of us taking our frustration out on a punching bag!
Saffie, I'm like any other American, we love british accents, I can just hear you saying your son smells like a sweaty hamster and I'm laughing right now.
Originally Posted By: saffie
I too have serious worries about my children and what it has all done to them. Sometimes my D's are so up in arms about what their dad did but other times they are so 'just get over it mum'!!
Saffie
My girls' reactions are exactly the same as yours! I too worry about history repeating itself. I did find out from my H's aunt that infidelity apparentlty "runs" in his family. His father and both maternal and paternal grandfather cheated. What a wonderful trait to pass down!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I'm not ready to "date" but I just want to have a life and be around people. I recently ran into a man that I dated my senior year in HS and some of my freshman year in college. The funny thing is I broke up with him back then and then he started dating someone else and I couldn't stand it. I wanted him back so bad, but it never happened. For a long time I had a hard time getting over him. I then met my H and started dating him, even though, back then I think if my ex bf had given me one more chance I would have dumped my H who was my bf at the time. Well, funny thing is now the old bf is calling me and asking me to hang out. I keep putting him off, because first of all I'm married,even though I'm going through a divorce and second I have no interest in him other than a friend. Part of me would like to tell him I would love to hang out if it was in a group situation and he understood it was just friends. I do need to get out, but I certainly don't want to lead him on. My social life is so limited because all of my friends are married. I would like to make new friends, but if I started hanging out with him and his friends I think I may be treading in dangerous territory. He has called me and offered me advice and sympathy because he went through the same thing a few years ago. It's so funny how 20 something years ago I thought he was the one, but now I have no feelings for him. We are so different. Any thoughts?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
yoyo Kind of scary readning your post. I think my W would have dumped me if back then her XBF had not been married and hit on her. I have been thinking latley maybe she married me to get back at him. Now I'm the big joke. He gets the last laugh.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
yoyo I know what you are saying but it is sooo hard when what makes you happy is making other people happy. I am about as far from self centered as you can get. I am learning though.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I keep logging into "I Need Support for my marital problems". by accident. Should I be over there? Is this a sign? or do I just need to clean my glasses.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I sometimes too wonder if I'm in the wrong forum since my H has filed for D, but I feel so comfortable here. Funny that we all don't know each other really, but everyone is so comforting and supportive of each other.
I just went over the MLC forum and read Goal's Thread --- My Daughter's Letter to her MLC Father. It is so similar to my husband's behavior that it is not even funny. There are differences, but lots of similarities.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Actually, it might be fun to hang out with former bf. If you're good enough friends at this point to talk openly, you can let him know how you feel about dating at this point. And--it may be hard for you to have romantic feelings about anyone right now. You may be feeling a little numbness in the heart area.
