How long does Replay last?

[still hoping]

I think I need a new screen name considering I'm no longer hoping...

Feeling much calmer and less emotional the past few days. Have decided not to file for D at his point. It's just a piece of paper and I would not benefit in any way right now. And after much thought, I don't want OW to get anything that should belong to my boys.

As for the letter, I still think I will stick to something closer to my original, just because it's how I feel and I'm not trying to save anything anymore, so I feel like I'm being fair to myself by telling him all the things I've kept in for so long. (Sorry oldtimer...but I do appreciate your input and will still consider what you said...)

Instead of the letter, I have also been thinking of just having a talk with him and saying somthing like: I accept that you and I are over and I'm really ok with that. I do hope that we can start being friends again when you're ready.

I think he is confusing my friendliness with me still wanting to work things out. I'd like some form of closure rather than just letting things end the way they have.

Is there any point for me to continue my efforts at just being nice to him and trying to build a friendship with him when he doesn't reciprocate? Wouldn't going dark and giving him space, etc be a DB tactic? I'm no longer trying to save my M. I just want to end it on better terms, but is it too late for that?