hey ponygirl, i know what you mean...my kids are grown and on their own; my life revolved around H and i've had to drop most of our friends as it made it difficult for him as he had to see them all the time.
for the first 6 months i couldn't remember what it was i liked to do.
do you have any hobbies or interests? any that were put on the back burner while together? like what someone else listed below, now's the time to start really doing fun and different things. learn something new, a new skill or artform.
i do art and photography, but never had the time...now i have the time and freedom but no money being out of work since feb. i'm living in an old house that needs lots of repair, so i'm painting and fixing and learning lots of that kind of stuff...i'm painting just for me, so if i want to paint the walls purple and lime green, i can.
i haven't gotten to the point of getting out and meeting new friends, but that will start soon...i start a waitressing job next week...i may decide to teach again (art and adult ed).
the main thing is to realize that you have been given a wonderful opportunity to enrich yourself, to find yourself, to create a new you without worrying about someone else's wants/needs. don't think about the bar scene or dating-if you are fighting for your marriage, but grow in yourself...
have you tried swing dancing? around here, everyone's doing it-there might be 200 people at a dance, from high school to 80 yr olds, and few people come as couples, they just dance with everyone.
the hard part is trying to find out who YOU are...and that's also the best part. since you have to go through this, make it worthwhile...don't waste the opportunity.
