For what its worth , stick with the do nothing strategy , let W make the moves for now. The DBing basiscs are reasonably easy and I think you can probably DB in your sleep by now. Focus on yourself and the kids. A physical seperation has some stuff going for it but I couldnt recommend it if you dont need to if only for your kids sake. I know you are following my sitch so at least you can watch me make all the mistakes LOL!