Max, A thought I had driving in this morning - she, your W, is going to C with you. She is talking to you. She is willing to be friends. That's pretty possitive, all in all. Patience. See what happens.
She actually didn't see the point in joint C at all, I guess she thought it was going through the motions (probably for me). However, some of the stuff we eventually got on to has to be seriously affecting our R and could be at the root of our difficulties. I can't give up hope yet, although I see very little want in her. However, change is always happening and most of the time we can't predicit it's direction. As you say, wait and see ...
It is also true to say that my own counseling is very revealing. I have left the previous two sessions feeling very positive and at peace. Some of the issues that lie at the heart of me, one in particular, also lie at the centre of some of her issues with us and how we see life. If I can overcome that (just for me) then my life and who I am will change quite dramatically.
Finally, I will at the very least manage my negative emotions so that they do not destroy our friendship. I am absolutely determined to do that and fully believe that I can. Hate or negative interactions will be of no benefit to my mental health or our future feelings.
I will just have to get her to fall in love with me again ...
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
