Cadesmom34,

Thank you for your advice. It is good to hear other peoples sitches and how they got through it all.

I do have the book. I started reading it a few months ago and stopped all of a sudden. It sort of got to me, all the home truths and my failings etc.

I think you are 100% right in regards to this week, either making or breaking their relationship. They have not had any time alone as yet (other than maybe one or two nights over the last few months).

Thanks again.

AndyV
M38
W36
D7
M 13 years
Together 17 years
W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off)
W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06)
EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM)
Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."