I remember when I called my MIL for the first time after H had left...she called me such aweful names, saying I was the most wicked woman she had ever known...and the most heartless...I cried for several hours because we had a deep but short history together... Now after H and I got back together she stayed distant...cold...avoided talking to me...until I finally called her and asked if there was something I had done to offend her...that her son and I were intending on staying married and that I loved him and his family and would like to have good relationships with everyone...she was so sweet I about died...she appologized and ever since has been as sweet as can be to me...she even calls now just to talk to me! I figure some people just don't know how to handle the whole thing when it involves there blood and ones who they love but are not their blood...personally I could be friends and have been with X-IL's...
