NikkiB #17

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Hi Nikki. I know exactly what you're talking about when you say it feels easier to be the one to sabotage things with your H. After awhile though I think you'll stop feeling that way. You will realize how important it is not to contribute to that cycle, or the roller coaster. I know it's hard. Hard to live with rejection, but it can be worse to live with being the one responsible for "making withdrawals". Good for you for recognizing what's going on. Keep up the good work. Try to focus on just "making deposits". If your H wants to make withdrawals, let that be his problem. Try to look at it differently... instead of "being" rejected, you could see it as him rejecting himself.

Take care. Have a great weekend!