lol. I don't think I'm depressed enough to start on drugs. Just riding the highs and lows of it all. Course when it first happened I probably could've used the drugs.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
So how long does it take to get to where you can go a day without being sad or upset? I'm better then I was 2 months ago but still have my moments daily.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
So how long does it take to get to where you can go a day without being sad or upset? I'm better then I was 2 months ago but still have my moments daily.
If I figure that out, I will tell you.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Not sure a forest exits big enough. It has to get better, doesn't it. I guess what gets me is I know I can go either way. It is the sitting back and waiting to know which way my life is going to go that drives me insane.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
You would think it would. Though sometimes I wonder. My SIL has been seperated for a little over a year and she says the pain doesn't go away but there are times that it's not present.
Yeah I don't like not knowing if I'll have a husband next week or tomorrow or in a year. Sucks that it takes 2 to get married and 1 to say no not married anymore.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
You would think it would. Though sometimes I wonder. My SIL has been seperated for a little over a year and she says the pain doesn't go away but there are times that it's not present.
Didn't need to hear that.
Originally Posted By: sadhearted
Yeah I don't like not knowing if I'll have a husband next week or tomorrow or in a year. Sucks that it takes 2 to get married and 1 to say no not married anymore.
It is the not knowing and waiting that hurts, but I will do it for as long as my heart allows. I do realize that I can go on and be happy with my life if we get divorced. It just isn't what I want to happen. I know if I do all the non DB'ing stuff it will be over before I could blink, so I will continue in the best traditions of DB'ing that I can. If it works out between us, I will be a happy a** man, if it does not, it will sting and hurt for quit some time, but will live and enjoy the rest of my life. It comes down to the not knowing and waiting that I just really suck at mentally most of the time.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
At this point in time I have no intentions of giving up on my marriage. I realize if he gets a D at some point I will be okay and go on with my life. I don't WANT to without him but that's something I can't control. I have several people that think he's not done and he will be back. May take some time but.. I can even think that sometimes. Then other times it feels completely hopeless.
I'm glad I found this site and can chat with people that are in the same sitch and know what it feels like. Helps to be able to vent or talk or whatever you need to do.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I don't think anyone here is ready to give up yet, I like that part of this area, always hopeful most of the time. The thing that scares me is that if I have a chance, and it takes a long time, is that I will make a stupid comment or do a stupid act that will finish it in her eyes. I also have people telling me both ways, in a way I do like hearing both view points even if I disagree, it at least makes me think. The other problem I have in having a chance at us working back together is the hurt she is piling on me, and especially our son, not that I have not hurt her plenty of times emotionally, so I do take that into consideration, that and I do not believe she know how much I am hurting. My thinking is that if a spouse does not know which way to go, they should go with the attempt and sooner the better, but then again that is wishful thinking. The causal bantor that goes on some nights is also a relief, I can come and moan in here, complain, have an up day, ask a question and also relax and laugh to where it does take my mind off of my situation from time to time and with people who are in the same boat. We are not alone.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I thought the same thing when she told me.