How is the LL book coming? I know when I read the book it was a huge eye opener that showed me how I'd been trying to love my wife in the ways I needed to feel loved instead of how she needed to feel love and she'd been doing much of the same.
This is exactly how I'm feeling about it as I'm reading (lovin' the book). Wish I'd have known about this at the beginning of the M (should be a prerequisite before getting married!).
Brief journaling,
Just got a call from the pharmacy (a recording, actually) stating that "my" prescription was ready to be picked up. Well, I haven't turned in anything a prescription. I then realized that it was likely my W's prescription for the absess on her nose that she recently got (or for something else, I guess). I then questioned whether I should call her and tell her that the pharmacy (which is in the store she works at) called me about her prescription and that it was ready, or call the pharmacy back and tell them that they prescription is for my W and that they'll need to call her.
I know this probably isn't a big thing to debate over, but when the rare opportunities to engage with my W are available, I'm trying to be very calculating with my actions.
So, I opted to call the pharmacy. I girl answered and I said, "Hi. I just got a message about a prescription being in, but I think it is for my W who works there, and you'll have to call her phone to let her know." Girl responded with, "Okay. What is the last name?" I told her, then she asked for the first name, which I told her. Then she seemed a little different (maybe slightly awkward), and said "Oh, okay. I think she's working today. Yup. Okay, I'll go ahead and let her know in a little bit when I see her." "Okay, thanks. I appreciate it." "You're welcome." Then the byes and we hung up. I kept an upbeat, friendly and confident tone during the brief convo, but I didn't expect for the girl to know my W because they work in two different departments.
It seemed obvious to me that the girl knows my W and that she probably knows about the S and looming D, as well as the OM since he works at that store too. The girl might have thought it odd that I still referred to her as my W, or that I was so nice and willing to help my W in this regard too. I don't know, but she did seem to get a little bit ruffled when she realized who I was talking about.
Okay, so I guess I'm just wondering if this was the better choice? I feel like it was, because it shows that I'm willing to help W out without contacting her in doing so. It shows that I'm detaching from her more (in her mind).
I guess I could've done option three and not called back at all, but I thought I'd seize the opportunity to help out some, even if it was minor.
