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WAW, you are describing my W and our sitch to a "T". The family part, check, controlling/jealous check, night out check. Oh boy, I wish I would have talked to you sooner!

OK, I think I said this bfore and agree w/ GD, he needs a list or set out parameters. No wishy washy crap, especially on the space thing. One thing that might go a long way, I think you mention that he did not notice till you did this (paraphrasing), guess what, he will not do the space thing unless you give him at least some hint that it has to happen and is a good thing, not what he perceives. Again, I have been there and still struggling with that one myself after 4 mos Separated, IC, and DBing let alone not having any insight at all!

Hope this helps and I actually believe the man you married is in there. He does need to realize he needs to get back to that person. Any other issues we need to know about, anything even suble might help us understand why he may have pulled back socially. Mine was a combo of a lot of work trying to build a life for my family whom I love dearly and physical issues. I did the same thing and presto, I am your husband!

Have faith in yourself and maybe do one thing, try to take off the blinders (anger, resentment etc) and see if he is willing to listen without that underlying tone which I am sure is there. It is definitely a two way street on all of this at the end of the day. You are not giving up which as GD said is admirable and we all comend you.

Thanks for your insights, you have no idea how valuable you are to us all.

CVA