As far as I know, they've been "seeing each other" since early March, but it could've been a little longer. I know that they were hanging out for a little bit before that, but I think it was solely emotional-based at that time. It was early March when I heard that it had turned physical.
I realize that they haven't been seeing each other that long, and the newness of it likely hasn't worn off, but they keep getting closer and closer (like the fact that W stays at his house all the time now instead of her apt -- and I think her apt lease isn't up until the end of August). Also, I keep thinking that at some point they will grow apart due to the age difference (W26, OM38), and one of them will realize that they are in a different stage of their life than the other (though this might not actually be the case -- I don't know).
About a month ago I was told by an ex colleague who is 46 that she didn't think it would last, and that when he starts slowing down in the not-too-distant future she will begin to rethink things (if it goes that far). She's been divorced and remarried, and usually has some good advice about R things. Also, she said that she had thoughts about her Ex after he finally changed for the long haul (I think it took him close to 10 years to figure it out), but that it was too late by then.
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She wont look back right now because she is distracted but one day I guarantee she will.
I hope you're right, and I hope it doesn't take a lifetime for that to happen -- but at this point, I'm willing to wait. I see so much potential for us to have a new M that is exciting, loving, nuturing, mature, etc. The "real love" that 5LL talks about. I did so much wrong for so long, and I know this has really helped to allow her not to look back even after 8 months of separation. I do hope that with the changes that I make she will eventually forget all of the bad times, but sometimes I get a NMA and feel like that might never happen. And I know that the changes I make need to be for me and my kids right now, but I also do it because I love my W and want to make things right between us. I can't lie to myself about the fact that this is why I do it too. If it wasn't a large part of the reason, I would be at a self-help board that didn't have to do with saving my M.
Thanks again, Dave -- I need that bit of reasssurance from time to time (good for the PMA!).
