Yesturday after work when I picked the girls up D7 (his fav) wanted to call daddy. I wasn't sure if he would pick seeing as though I did not know how he felt about me turning him down again,but i told daugh he might not pick up b/c he was at work. I let her then call his work and (lies) H had another coworker answer(they have caller id) to say H had already left for the Daytona race. How do I know he lied? H is back at work this morning! If anything H will most likely leave for the race 2nite or early tomorrow like he usually does. I guess he might be bumped about the no sex??? What I don't get is the OW is sooo great why would he need more sex from me seeing as how he said we got to be boring and all........?
I have coem to the realization thta that H has turned really revengeful (hindsight the scheduling to turn off the electric). Do I really want that sort of thing back in my life? I have to do some major re evaluating this weekend...
I keep reading people advising to give our WAS space and I understand the need to do that especially at the biginning stages of the stich,but what if your So complained the space was more of the same behavior he did not want anymore? My H wants more attention & by now we dont live together anymore,but before I kicked him out I kept telling I was giving him space & he complained he did not want space. How does one show attention w/out pursuing and not living together anymore??
Everytime he comes by the house he notices something he acknowledges out loud that is different that I use to not do and am doing now (little stuff) like he opened the fridge and said "oh no w you keep the freezer full you it use to never be so full or the house is always so clean?I am not a sloppy person??? You must be having someone come over all the time now.
I guess I do feel more motivated to do things now whether its around the house or to do things w/ the girls. I even take the girls out afterwork during the wek to the bookstore & stuff. I guess H vegetating in front of the tv use to make me not want to do things either , I dont know....
Well it has been since last Thursday since I last saw & talked w/H. I suspected he might be upset from me turning his sexual advances down. We normally talk via IM from work. Yesturday & today I had not opeend my IM at all. This morning H worte tomy regular work email & asked if I was working today. H asked how me & the girls were & if they miss him b/c he misses them dearly. I wrote back saying I assume so it's only natural,but that he needed to be the one to tell them he was not going to ever be living w/ us again. H- nope! unless you have other plans? I told him we have to talk when he has a chance. I know no R talk but for me it has way been over due time. I feel like I am getting tired of waiting. He asked why do am I seeing someone? It took me awhile to get back to him & so he asked agin why can't you answer me? My response- we ar seperated & I no longer have any reason to be faithful. Why should I when your not? Too much time has pass & too much has happened. You said you can no longer live w/ me (he told my mom this not me) & I agree, so let's finish it. Now his response is -I take that as a yes. I want you to move out b/c I am not paying the house for you to whore around in and I will move back in this weekend or else we pay evrything 50/50. M- I never said yes that I am seeing someone! Thats right the only one who gets to whore around is you. Try kicking me out. Just file. When the house sells THEN I will move out.
OH my God!! The king of morals is telling me to be careful who I bring around the house around our girls!! HA HA!!
Now h e is bing revengeful again. Says he will move back in this weekend and take over the master bedroom & I wil have to sleep in the extra room & that from now on life will be a living he** while he is back....
Hmmmm things must not be going to well at OW house??
Sorry to hear that H is being such an ass! It all has to do with you pulling away when he thought he had control. He immediately suspected an OM. Why? Because he has been unfaithful and walked away because of it, so that's the only way he can explain why you're walking away. He is losing control, and is now grabbing for what he can. His pride is hurt and that is what brings about his horrible behavior.
I hope that he will see the light and figure out that what he is doing is just hurting all involved.
Do you know what you want for sure? Do you still want to work things out w/ H if that were possible?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
My h is in seriuos need of mental counseling. H knows the only way I would allow for him to come back if she were to be out of the picture 100%. I said no more second chances as soon as I know he is sneaking around thats it,but can I file w/ only the copies of the agreement? He has the originals that I signed months ago. I dont want this to come to it,but he has threaten me one too many times. This is affecting my health.
I guess I have made many changes and felt I have grown & H is only falling back further and further......I dont know
My h is in seriuos need of mental counseling. H knows the only way I would allow for him to come back if she were to be out of the picture 100%. I said no more second chances as soon as I know he is sneaking around thats it,but can I file w/ only the copies of the agreement? He has the originals that I signed months ago. I dont want this to come to it,but he has threaten me one too many times. This is affecting my health.
I guess I have made many changes and felt I have grown & H is only falling back further and further......I dont know
