I so feel for you and I know exactly how you feel, although I thought I was losing it because I was struggling so much, but the C assured me that these emotions are normal and I had every right to feel them. I know for me this is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with in my life! So you are not alone! Although I do have to say one thing, and that is your marriage will never be the same as it was, and would you want it to be? We have a opportunity to make it better, and that is what I am hoping for! At this point you can't push her to do anything, she is like a deer in the headlights and doesn't know which way to run, so you need to stop, be quiet, and eventually she will figure it out. If you go to fast it will probably cause her to make the wrong choice. Its all a waiting game, and its the worst! To be kept in limbo, when you like as you know it could be blown apart. IC for you will help, just try and stay strong and focus on you, and all the good things they tell you to do here!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!